You always read about what not to say, so I thought I’d flip the script and share 10 things to say to a new mom. Just saying something nice and simple can go a long way in brightening a mom’s day, especially since that day has been more than likely quite hectic. If you say any of these things, or if you hear any of these things, someone’s doing something right.
1. “You look great!”
Because I probably feel anything but great, what with my questionable state of hygiene, unkempt hair, uptake of caffeine and severe lack of sleep. A compliment on my appearance is the sweetest thing I can hear. Except for my baby’s coos, of course.
2. “Your baby is so well-behaved!”
Nobody wants their baby to start screaming bloody murder in the middle of a meal out or in a crowded grocery store, yet it is a common fear all of us new moms carry with us. Letting me know that my baby is pleasant and not bothering you in the slightest is a welcome comment and one that probably isn’t said enough.
3. “Can I bring dinner over sometime?”
Because, food. It is always needed, always a good idea and a huge help. Bring the food and everybody’s happy.
4. “I’ll babysit!”
As a brand new mom, I may not want to leave my baby yet, but even just an offer to come watch the baby while I get things done around the house, take a bubble bath or clock in a nice long nap will be a huge help and much needed break!
5. “What a cute baby!”
I never ever get sick of hearing it.
Well, I obviously know this to be true already, but I never ever get sick of hearing it. Ever. I mean, I did make him, after all, and he’s kind of my biggest accomplishment. To hear that I did a great job will make me beam like no other…
…Read 5 more things to say to a new mom over at mom.me!
What would you add?
xo
p.s. I also wrote a not-to-be-taken seriously article, “9 Things NOT to Say to a New Mom” if you want to check that out! ;)
Not a mommy, but I do have friends who are new moms or moms to be who all say to be proactive with a new mom. Like instead of asking what you can do, just DO. Just be helpful because a new mom might not even have the energy to ask for help!
I LOVE that! So so true!
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All good ones!!!
Thanks :)
xo
Given the fact that in a weeks time I’ll be a new mom, I can definitely see all of these things being nice to hear during the initial transition.
Eeeek so excited for youuuu!!! :)
xo
I know I tell a lot of new moms how great they look, and I’m never lying! It always surprises me how great new moms look, but I think that their happiness and love for the baby has a lot to do with that :)
Awww that is SO SWEET. And so true! :) I love your heart, Chelsea!
xo
yes yes and yes. flattery goes a LONG, LONG way, especially when you feel nothing like ‘great’ or ‘wonderful’ and ANY offer for help is super appreciated!
Exactly!! Compliments are always a good idea :)
xo