The other day I had a playdate with a mom friend. My son didn’t have his nap, but I figured it wouldn’t be too big of a deal. Boy, was I wrong. He cried when we got out of the car. I walked up into her house, hot and sweaty and with a crying toddler.
He cried upon entering her house, and didn’t stop crying the entire hour that we were there. I tried to give him food. He cried. I tried to play with him. He cried. I tried bubbles, his favorite toys, playing with water, playing with her daughters. He cried and he cried and he cried some more.
Hot mess express. That was me.
And you know what my friend said to me? She hugged me and gave me a knowing look and said, “I’ve been there. We’ve all been there. And it’s okay.” Then she tried consoling him herself.
And I just about cried myself right then and there.
Here’s why you need mom friends.
Mom friends don’t judge you. Ever. For anything. Mom friends understand what you’re going through. Mom friends have been there. Mom friends can handle the incessant crying of an overtired toddler, and have trained their ears to block it out. Mom friends can laugh through blow outs and cry with you through petty “mom” things. Mom friends don’t care if your house is a mess, and are actually relieved to see that it is.
Mom friends understand. They get you. They get it, this crazy ride of motherhood. They get it all in a way that childless friends just, well, don’t. Not to say your friends without kids aren’t just as important and just as awesome, but gosh we all need some mom friends, too. We need our village. We need those understanding glances. We need those open arms. We need to know we aren’t alone in this road of motherhood. It’s hard. But sharing it with others is what it’s all about. Otherwise I’m convinced we’d all go crazy.
Well, crazier than we already are, of course. #kids
xo
I go to my mom friends house and there’s toys everywhere and it’s a disaster and I could care less. Because my house looks the exact same way. And for anybody else I would feel the need to clean my house up if they were coming over, but I know that if it’s a mom friend she will get it. So yes, mom friends are the best!
YES exactly!! Mom friends just understand and frankly DO NOT care. It’s actually nice to see that we aren’t the only ones with messes. :)
xo
Yes having mom friends is the best! Sometimes even just to come over and hang out watching the kids is nice. Although usually our Sophie is going nuts about having someone over. We usually go over to other’s houses because we don’t have cable and that’s usually a deal breaker for them
liz @ j for joiner
Ha! That’s hilarious about the cable! And totally- just hanging out with no plans- it’s definitely better together!
xo
yes yes yes yes YES! this. so much. i appreciate my mom friends more all the time for this very reason!!!
Amen, sister!!! I wish we could get together with our little ones!!
xo
Such a great reminder that there are thousands of us out there with messy hair, spit up on our shirt, and a house that won’t be getting cleaned anytime soon. It’s great to be in the presents of those who understand!
YES. Exactly. We just GET each other- and that’s an awesome feeling. :)
xo
Yes Katie! Mom friends are that community that gets it! It’s also great when you have mom friends whose kids are a little older and can give you advice that you actually want to take! :)
YES definitely!!! No unsolicited/unwanted advice here! :)
xo
Its interesting to watch my friends that are all expecting right now bond with each other :)
That smile of Sam’s….good grief, too cute!
Aww thanks Shannon! :)
xo
Shared this on my blog. Love it. :)
Ahh–I mean I shared this on my blog’s FB page! :)
Ahhh thank you SO much for sharing!!! That means a lot to me! :)
xo
I shared this on my blog. Thanks so much Katie! :)
Oh my gosh thank you SO much for sharing!!! :)
xo