Here’s a thing about motherhood: it is HARD. There are so many moments full of joy and beauty, and then some crazy things that will just stop you DEAD in your tracks and make you question your sanity and if you even know anything about what you are doing. I had one of those moments yesterday. No, I had a LOT of those moments yesterday. Moments where I just wanted to shrivel up and cry right then and there. Moments where I felt completely defeated and helpless and honestly like I had no idea what the EFF I was doing. Am doing. I don’t, really. I’m winging this entire thing, and sometimes that just becomes so blantantly obvious.
Yesterday was hard. Really really hard. It was one of those days I wanted to re-do before it even really got started. The garbage man woke Sam up at 6AM (his normal wake-up is more like 8AM). Library storytime was a complete disaster. We had a full-blown classic toddler meltdown when we left the playground. Lunch was resisted and met with tears- on all of our parts.
I felt like a failure, in so many ways. And then? Glorious naptime, and a whole new attitude and shift in the day. It was ended with a trip to the wading pool, meeting new friends, a yummy dinner, smiles, laughter, kisses and the realization that, yes, it will be hard. There will be times I want to cry and scream right along with him. But these sweet moments sure do make up for them and almost make me forget about the rest… Almost.
Also, there’s this: That whole not feeling adequate enough? That whole not feeling like I’m doing a good enough job, or even know what the eff I’m doing? That whole “winging it” thing? Guess what? It’s what we are ALL doing. Each and every one of us. Moms or not. Life has no rule book (except for to be nice to people, I think that should definitely be universally acknowledged as a Life Rule). We’re all just going along, doing what we think is best and hoping that it’s right. Sometimes we fail. Sometimes we thrive. Yesterday felt like more of a failure. But today, today is a new day. And today I’m choosing to look back on the happiness of this week- because there was a LOT of that.
There always, always is.
And also, Sunday is my birthday, which means this weekend is Birthday Weekend, so really, it can’t be all that bad, right? ;)
Happy weekend, friends! I hope that whatever situation you find yourself in right here and now, that you know you are not alone and that you are doing the best you can. Give yourself grace this weekend. It’s the best thing you can do.
Thank you for this! It’s so refreshing to read about other Moms having bad days because sometimes I feel like it’s only me! I hope you have an amazing birthday weekend!! :)
GIRL it is definitely NOT only you!!! I’m so glad this was refreshing to read! I know what it feels like to think you’re all alone in this craziness!
Days as a Mom we’ve ALL had…
A sense of humor helps and knowing
this too shall pass.
YES. Both of those are SO important!!! I always remind myself, this too shall pass.
I truly believe that in all things in life, all you can ever do is your best. Some days, your best is better than other days, but as long as you keep trying and keep choosing to do your best, you’re doing a great job no matter what!
Happy birthday weekend! I hope it is full of fun and cake and happy babies! ;)
AMEN to that! All you can ever do is your best! :) It was a VERY happy birthday weekend- thanks for the good wishes!
Dying over Sophie’s swimsuit, I could just eat up babies in swimwear!!
RIGHT?! Give me alllll of the baby swimsuits!!!
A constant reminder that every minute can bring a new emotion, and in the end stepping back to appreciate it all and realize it is WORTH it.
Thank you for sharing, most of the time I am scared to show my parenting downfalls for fear of shaming so it is refreshing to see I am not alone.
Today was a super rough day for us! :( Raising kids is hard work! Talk about testing your boundaries too! And I love, love, LOVE Sophie’s little swimzip! SO CUTE!
Love your blog! I’m a new mama to a sweet baby girl who is now three weeks old. It’s been a struggle between her waiting to eat constantly, fussing and not sleeping well. It’s so easy to feel inadequate or like my breast milk isn’t enough for her or something. It’s hard to find time to do anything else because she wants to eat like just about every 1 1/2 hours during certain times of the day or night.
Did any of your babies cluster feed?
I just need to know I’m not alone in this :/.